What about the spark?

11 pm. Strolling around the park on a mellow summer evening. Watching the sparkly lights in the water, eluminating the darkness of the night. First red, glowing like fire. Then blue and yellow. Purple and pink. Looking at the stars while talking about everything and nothing. Passions, dreams, our siblings and being grown up. Or rather growing up. Just him and I lying next to each other on the grass. If I could describe the scenario in one word I would choose luminous. Or magical. But something was missing.

The spark. That spark.

The evening would have been more than perfect, but something was off. The butterflies were missing. The spark that all the love songs and romantic comedies are about. The one that Carrie and Mr. Big have. The spark that all the hopeless romantics hope for. The spark that makes you crave more. The feeling you can’t get enough off.

The spark just wasn’t there.

How can you enjoy a person’s company so much, but the butterflies are simply not there? Or are they about to appear after some time goes by?

When I talked to a friend about the date and that I would have wished for some kind of tingling feeling she simply said „Okay well that is a bummer that it doesn’t fit 100% but maybe he’s simply not the one (for a lifetime) but only for some time.“

So does that mean that I should still give him a chance even though there isn’t even a spark? I am not looking for the one at the moment anyway, but I would still hope for some kind of tension.

Waiting for that spark – or just giving into the moment, taking it as it comes?

What would you do? Would you give it a try or wait with the hope that there will be someone else who you will have that kind of fire with?

Should you give people a chance you don’t feel a connection with? Even if you don’t feel the butterflies?

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Maybe he’s simply not the one (for a lifetime) but only for some time.

That sentence makes me ponder. A lot. Should I even be looking for the one at this age? I am only turning 21 next week. And what if I would meet the one at this age? Let’s imagine that Mr. Right would show up at my door step at exactly this moment..

My breath stops.

Honestly, that thought is really scary. Of course, I’d love to meet him, but part of me is also afraid that my one true love would stop me from all the things that I still want to achieve in my future. Myself as well as my career are my two big priorities – and I don’t want anything standing in my way.

However: Would he even be the one if he would stop me from achieving my goals and dreams?

No.

And I believe that anybody who assumes that is only lying to themselves. Or am I too stubborn concerning this topic?

What do you think abut this topic? Do you believe there needs to be a spark?

Much love

Christine


Elf Uhr abends. Schlendern durch den Park an einer milden Sommernacht. Den funkelnden Lichter im Wasser zusehen, wie sie die Dunkelheit erleuchten. Erst glühend rot, fast so wie Feuer. Dann blau und gelb. Violett und rosa. Den Sternen zusehen und dabei reden. Über alles mögliche und nichts. Ziele, Träume, unsere Geschwister und das Erwachsensein. Oder eher Erwachsenwerden. Nur er und ich, nebeneinander im Gras. Dürfte ich den Abend in einem Wort beschreiben, würde ich leuchtend aussuchen. Oder magisch. Aber irgendetwas fehlte.

Der Funke. Dieser eine Funke.

Das Treffen wäre mehr als nur perfekt gewesen, aber etwas fehlte. Der Funke fehlte. Dieser eine besondere Funke. Der, von dem alle Liebeslieder und Romantikkomödien handeln. Der, den Carrie und Mr. Big miteinander haben. Der Funke, auf den all die hoffnungslosen Romantiker hofften. Der Funke, der einen dazu veranlasst sich nach mehr zu sehnen. Das Gefühl, von dem man einfach nicht genug bekommt.

Der Funke war einfach nicht da.

Wie konnten wir beide uns nur so unglaublich gut verstehen, aber dieses Kribbeln – die Schmetterlinge im Bauch – fehlten einfach komplett? Oder kommen die manchmal erst nach einiger Zeit?

Als ich einer Freundin von dem Date und dem Nicht-Vorhandensein des Kribbelns erzählt hatte, sagte sie einfach „Echt schade, dass es doch nicht so 100% passt, aber vielleicht ist er ja nicht der Richtige für immer, sondern nur für gerade jetzt.“

Trifft sie es damit auf den Punkt? Bedeutet das, dass ich ihm trotzdem eine Chance geben sollte, auch wenn nicht mal diese Spannung da war? Ich suche zur Zeit ohnehin nicht nach dem Richtigen, aber trotzdem hätte ich gerne diesen einen ganz besonderen Funken gespürt.

Warten auf Schmetterlinge im Bauch – oder dem Moment nachgeben und das Leben nehmen wie es kommt?

Was würdet ihr tun? Ihm eine Chance geben oder darauf warten, dass da doch jemand anders kommt, bei dem man dieses Feuer spürt?

Sollte man Menschen eine Chance geben, auch wenn man keine spezielle Verbindung zu ihnen fühlt? Auch wenn diese Schmetterlinge im Bauch fehlen?

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Vielleicht ist er ja nicht der Richtige für immer, sondern nur für gerade jetzt.

Dieser Satz bringt mich zum Nachdenken. Soll man überhaupt in meinem Alter nach dem Einen suchen? Ich werde ja erst 21 nächste Woche. Wäre das nicht sowieso zu jung? Was wäre überhaupt, wenn der Richtige plötzlich vor der Tür stehen würde.. und zwar jetzt in diesem Moment?

Mein Atem stoppt.

Um ehrlich zu sein, bekomme ich bei diesem Gedanken Angst. Natürlich würde ich diesen einen Typen gerne treffen, aber ein anderer Teil von mir will auch nicht, dass mich die große Liebe von all den Dingen abhält, die ich noch erreichen möchte. Ich selbst und auch meine Karriere stehen für mich an erster Stelle – und nichts soll sich dem in den Weg stellen.

Aber andererseits: Wäre es dann überhaupt der Richtige wenn er mich von meinen Träumen eher abhält?

Nein.

Und ich denke, dass jeder der das denkt, sich nur etwas vormacht. Oder bin ich da zu stur?

Was denkt ihr über dieses Thema? Glaubt ihr, dass es diesen Funken geben muss?

Ganz viel Liebe

Christine

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Dating Ideas & Second Dates

So, do you have anything special planned for tonight?

I was thinking you could come to my place and we can cook something, how does that sound?

Second date at his home? Or is it too soon for that?

I don’t think that it is too soon, I actually think it is a really nice idea. Cooking something together in a comfortable atmosphere – that is one of the nicest date ideas! However, when I told my friends about this plan nearly everyone said to me something like „Oh really, you are already going to his place?“

What do people usually do on second dates? I feel like the problem with this second date was that him and I literally covered everything you could do on a „typical“ afterwork date the first time round: we had something to eat, took a walk along the lake, got drinks and talked for hours. The next thing was that we had limited time. As I have mentioned, we could only meet up after work (around 7 p.m.). Also, none of us really had time on the weekends after.

So what would you have done? Would you have cancelled because you didn’t want to go to his place yet? Or would you have invited him over instead? What do you think about second dates at home? Do you think it is too soon?

Moreover, second dates can be so awkward sometimes. Both of you know you want more than friendship, but you are not that close enough yet to kiss each other, or touch. It is still the getting-to-know-each-other-phase even though you are super attracted to this other person.

However, maybe I only feel like that because I haven’t been on a second date in what feels like forever! It must be over a year – and that actually didn’t really feel like dating to me (it was more like a friendship to me looking back at it).

What are your favourite activities to do on first and second dates? Do you also feel weird sometimes while you are still getting to now them? What are your thoughts on these topics?

Much love,

Christine


 

Hast du schon etwas geplant für heute oder möchtest du spontan entscheiden?

Ich dachte wir könnten bei mir zusammen kochen, wie findest du die Idee?

Zweites Date bei ihm zuhause: Gute Idee oder zu früh?

Ich persönlich finde es nicht zu früh. Eigentlich ist es eine echt gute Idee: in einer gemütlichen Atmosphäre  lecker kochen – eine der schönsten Date Ideen! Als ich meinen FreundInnen von diesem Plan erzählt habe, waren die meisten aber etwas geschockt und haben Dinge gesagt wie „Ach echt, du besuchst ihn jetzt schon bei sich zuhause?“

Was unternimmt man denn normalerweise bei zweiten Treffen? Das Problem bei diesem Date war, dass er und ich alles „Typische“ schon beim ersten Date unternommen hatten: wir waren essen, beim See spazieren, danach noch etwas trinken und haben stundenlang geredet. Dazu kam, dass wir beide bei der Zeit nicht so flexibel waren. Wir haben das Treffen nach der Arbeit (gegen 19 Uhr) geplant und an den darauffolgenden Wochenenden hatten wir beide nicht wirklich Zeit.

Was hättest du in dieser Situation gemacht? Das Date einfach mal abgesagt / verschoben? Oder wärst du zu ihm nachhause gefahren oder hättest ihn zu dir eingeladen? Was denkst du über zweite Dates bei ihm zuhause? Findest du, dass das zu früh ist?

Zudem können zweite Dates manchmal richtig komisch werden. Ihr beide wollt offensichtlich etwas voneinander, aber ihr geht noch nicht so offen und direkt damit um, dass ihr euch küssen würdet oder berührt. Ihr seid immer noch in dieser Kennenlernphase, obwohl ihr euch gegenseitig anziehend findet.

Vielleicht finde ich zweite Dates auch nur so weird, weil ich  seit einer gefühlten Ewigkeit keines hatte. Sicher schon seit einem Jahr, und das letzte Mal als ich mich das zweite Mal mit jemandem getroffen habe, war es auch eher freundschaftlich für mich.

Was sind eure Ideen für erste und zweite Dates? Findet ihr manche Situationen auch so komisch? Was ist eure Meinung zu diesen Themen?

Bis zum nächsten Mal,

Christine

Style: Fashion x Life Lessons

Hellooo everyone!

It’s exactly one week know that I live in Hamburg, and I have to say that I have already learned a lot. Not only concerning my social media internship, but also things about other people and life in general.

I want to share those things with you because I believe they are really important. Furthermore, I want to show you my favourite pieces from the NA-KD sale they have at the moment, just keep on reading!

Life Lessons

Here is what I have realised so far:

  • Human connection. You connect with people when there are no emotional barriers between the two of you. Both of you don’t feel embarrassed and can talk about anything and just be themselves 100%.
  • Being vulnerable and open allows you to connect to people.
  • You can do anything if you work hard for it. One example: my friend Mel worked hard for 1 whole year at a radio station. She did speech training and worked hard for it. And last week she was ON AIR for THE FIRST TIME! Work hard and you will achieve anything. Always be the most hardworking person in the room.
  • Your gut will tell you if you are on your right path. What belongs in your life will come naturally and will feel effortless. That’s how I feel about living here in Hamburg. I was here last summer for two days and I felt so bound to this place instantly. It’s so crazy, I can’t even really explain why it feels that way to be here. When I was in Hamburg last summer, we walked past the agency I work in now and I don’t know why, but I stopped for a moment and said „It would be really cool if I worked there.“ So when I was in Canada I applied just for fun and now I am here! Life is really strange sometimes but also so fascinating. I truly believe we can never go wrong with what we are doing if we trust in our gut feeling.
  • Everybody, and I mean everybody, wants to feel important. It is one of the most basic instincts and needs of human beings. Use this information wisely.

I hope all of these lessons help you as much as they helped me!

Fashion Picks 

Now on to my five favourite things of the NA-KD sale…

Disclaimer: This product placement is unpaid.

Playsuit

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Price: 13,48 €

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Black Jumper

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Price: 15,28 €

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Green Jumper

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Price: 22,47€

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Pink top

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Price: 8,38 €

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Blue Blouse

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Price: 14,47 €

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Which one of those looks is your favourite? And what is your biggest and most valuable life lesson so far?

Much love,

Chris

Rome for a Day

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Ihr plant einen eintägigen Trip nach Rom? Dann seid ihr bei diesem Beitrag an der richtigen Stelle. Ich habe fünf Highlights für euch zusammengefasst, die ihr auf keinen Fall verpassen solltet! Ich war Anfang dieser Woche mit einer Freundin dort (mein drittes Mal schon) und bin nach wie vor fasziniert von dieser Stadt und dem italienischen Zauber, der in der Luft liegt.

Falls ihr ein paar Tage mehr in Rom seid, findet ihr am Ende ein paar extra Plätze, die ihr besuchen solltet. Die ganze Reise ist low budget – meine Freundin Anna und ich waren 3 Tage dort und haben beide unter 100€ ausgegeben (ohne Flug und Hotel). Es wäre sogar noch weniger, wäre ich nicht wieder mal shoppen gewesen haha

Frühstück auf den spanischen Treppen

Es gibt wahrscheinlich keine bessere Art und Weise als den Tag mit einem leckeren Frühstück auf den spanischen Treppen zu starten. Holt euch ein Croissant und einen italienischen Cappuccino und setzt euch oben auf die Stufen. Der Ausblick ist einfach hammer.

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Orangengarten

Von den spanischen Treppen aus könnt ihr die Via del Corso ansteuern, eine lange Einkaufsstraße in Rom. Irgendwann führt euch die Straße am Kapitol vorbei, wo in der Nähe der Orangengarten auf einem kleinen Hügel liegt. Zu Mittag ist es dort durch die vielen Bäume super schattig, also perfekt für eine Spazierpause. Der Ausblick dort ist ebenfalls Wahnsinn, lasst euch überraschen!

Gelato

Holt euch danach zur Belohnung ein Gelato von einem Eisgeschäft. Es ist wahr, was alle sagen: Das Eis schmeckt in Italien so viel besser! Vor einigen Jahren habe ich die Eiscreme bei Blue Ice in einer Seitengasse beim Piazza Navona probiert, super lecker! Auch das Eis beim Pantheon soll gut sein.

Abendessen in Trastevere

Im Viertel Trastevere kann man gut Abendessen und danach auch verschiedene Bars besuchen. Hier sind viele junge Leute zu finden! Die Seitengassen sind auch toll zum Durchspazieren.

Fontana Di Trevi bei Nacht

Mitten in der Nacht, wenn die meisten anderen TouristInnen schlafen, besucht noch den Trevibrunnen und wünscht euch dort etwas, indem ihr eine Münze ins Wasser werft. Spät in der Nacht sind weniger Menschen dort, und der Brunnen wirkt richtig magisch.

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Extra Vorschläge
  • Kapitol mit dem Tempel daneben
  • Piazza Navona
  • Forum Romanum & Collosseum (ermäßigter Eintritt kostet 7,50€)
  • Vatikan (kostenlos, aber lange Schlange wegen Security: am besten ganz früh dort sein und anstellen)

Die Tageskarten für die Ubahn bzw. Busse/Straßenbahnen zahlen sich nicht unbedingt aus, weil man das meiste zu Fuß erreichen ist. Einzelkarten für die Ubahn gibt es bei Automaten (Bargeld ist von Vorteil), und die Karten für den Bus bzw. Tram in Trafiken.

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Soulmates

Don't think about how you are going to meet your soulmate. Live your life. Go for your goals and dreams. Travel. Do what makes YOU happy. Be whole. Feel whole. Be complete by yourself.TrThe concept of soulmates is very popular amongst people. It makes sense: the belief that somebody – the one – is out there, and soon your paths might finally cross and that person will make you realise why it has never worked with anyone else before.

It’s a nice thought, knowing there will be someone who is perfect for you, who shares the same interests. It’s nice, because thinking about love like that gives you a secure feeling. The feeling that everything will be okay in the end no matter what.

Today, I want to discuss the concept of soulmates a little bit more. I’ve recently come upon this video, which made me think about love and soulmates and why do we fall in love with certain people.

What is a soulmate?

The term soulmate has many different definitions.

„someone, usually your romantic or sexual partner, who you have a special relationship with, and who you know and love very much“ – Cambridge Dictionary

„It’s like a best friend, but more. It’s the one person in the world that knows you better than anyone else.“ – Urban Dictionary

There are even some concepts that describe soulmates, like the Japanese tale of the red thread of fate. The legend says that two people who are destined to meet someday are connected by an invisible red thread.

„no matter how far apart they live or how much their life circumstances differ“ – Bright Side

But is that true? Is everyone destined to meet another person at some point in their life?

Do soulmates exist?

What do you think? Do soulmates exist? Is there only one soulmate for each person? Is it a love interest, or a friend?

In my opinion, soulmates do exist. However, I don’t believe that there is only one soulmate for each person. And I certainly don’t believe that a soulmate has to be a love interest or sexual partner.

I think there are quite a few people who you can feel that special connection with. Do you know what I mean? You see them for the first time and you instantly know, yes, this person belongs in my life. Somehow like a special bond even though you might not really know them yet. And when you get to know them, the two of you instantly click.

A person, that always inspires you to be your best self, and you gets you on a deeper level. A person, who you have a special kind of intimacy with. People on your exact same level of energy.

I believe each person who comes into your life is there for a purpose. They either inspire you or teach you a lesson. Sometimes they stick with you for a longer period of time. I think that your soulmate (or your soulmates) will bump into your life, when you will need them the most.

I know that I have found one soulmate in a best friend of mine. Her and I get along so well and know each other inside out, it’s actually crazy. We share the same energy and she inspires me every time I see her. And she did come into my life when she was supposed to, looking back I am 100 percent sure.

Stop looking

Looking for your soulmate has no use, maybe they are not supposed to be in your life yet. It’s comparable with every situation like this: If you go looking for your keys, you will never find them while actively searching for them. Or when you can’t remember a word, but you know that you know it – you will never remember it while actively thinking about it. Only if you are distracted and thinking about a different topic, you will suddenly remember it.

The key to meeting a soulmate is the same as the key to finding love: stop looking for one.

Don’t think about how you are going to meet your soulmate. Live your life. Go for your goals and dreams. Travel. Do what makes YOU happy. Be whole. Feel whole. Be complete by yourself. Trust the Universe that good will happen and that you will attract GOOD into your life. Let everything happen naturally. Let it flow. 

Just be and everything will fall into place. Even if you don’t believe in it yet. Life and the universe always have their ways. And everything will be okay in the end. 

Much love, as always

Christine

 

Bucket List

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For this weeks Coffee Talk I’ve decided to do a bucket list for summer 2018. There are so many things I always plan for the summer, but most times I forget about them. But not this year!! 😉 My lovely friend Anna inspired me to do this with her bucket list.

So… what do I want to do this summer?
  • Watch the stars
  • Do a road trip
  • Go hiking
  • Get a tan
  • Spend time at the sea
  • Go night swimming
  • Have a sleepover
  • Do a game night with friends
  • Watch the sun rise
  • Watch a sunset
  • Have a barbecue

What are your plans this summer?

Love, Chris

Ps: The dress is from Zara

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Interior Ideas

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Just recently, I finished decorating my room. I decluttered and put everything in place. I also bought little plants at IKEA and decorated little bits and pieces in my room. Now I am finally happy with my interior, which is why I’ve decided to take some photos and post them here on my blog. Maybe it’s an inspiration to some of you  xx

Enjoy!

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Someone New

Do you know the feeling of falling in love with someone new?

The tingling feeling in your stomach, the heaviness on your chest everytime you see them. You take every chance to cross their path.

You suddenly like the things they like, listen to the music they listen to, watch the movies they like to watch… And google their names countless times.

But it’s not only that you fall in love with them, it gives you a new love for yourself. You get dressed up, take care of yourself. You give your best to impress them. You want them to see the best version of you so you become your best version. 

The happiness and lightness you feel every time you see them. Nothing can compare to that. However, no other feeling gives you that much vulnerability either. You open yourself up for that person.

It’s somehow magical really.

Embrace it. Enjoy it as long as it lasts.

Who are you… really?

„Remember who you are. Without the number on the scale, your report card or your bank account. Without the amount of friends you have, or the expensive things you own. Know who you are; your raw true self.“ – Source

People always define themselves by numbers and names. If you were to ask me „Who are you?“, I would probably say „My name is Christine, I’m 20 years old, I live in Vienna and I study corporate communication“. But we are so much more. We can’t merely be defined by all those exterior things and labels. And honestly, none of this even really matters in the long run.

In years from now, people won’t remember you because of the weight the scale shows you, the things you own, the clothes you wear or the money you have. They will remember how you made them feel. How you carry yourself even though you are skinnier or weigh more than the „standard“ size, how modest you are even though you own a fancy car, how you express your true self with the clothes you wear and how you treat others even though you possess a lot of money. In the end, that’s what matters most.

Moreover, you can take all those things away. You can take away the money, the clothes and cars, but nobody can ever take away your personality, your true self. The person you are, when you are genuinely happy and nobody’s watching.

People often say that the key to a happy life is within yourself. I my opinion that is true. If you are able to make yourself happy, without the help of anything or anyone else – you have found real happiness. Then, nobody will ever be able to take it away from you. It is inside of you and you can carry it with you no matter where you go. You free yourself from all the strings that attach you from the outside – from all the things you thought would make you happy.

So get in touch with who you really, truly are. What makes you laugh out loud? What fascinates you so much that you just don’t want to stop talking about it? What awakes that fire inside your soul? That urging feeling to go and do and live? Find that. Find out who your soul is and what you want to do.

Write it down. Take pictures and stick them on walls. Post them on Instagram. So you will remember it forever. Even if you have those little moments of doubt. Everyone doubts themselves and their personality sometimes, but that just life – it comes and goes in seasons.

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I stumbled upon the quote above and realised that I am so much more than all the things people usually define themselves by. I am Christine and twenty and from Austria, but I am so much more than that. I am how I can make my friends feel, how I make them laugh. I am the way I can motivate myself – and my ambition. I am the way I am instantly happier when there is that summer feeling in the air. How people give me so much energy and working out calms me down. How I have such an urge to get into nature and go some place with hills and the sea. How I always want to dance and sing and entertain others.

What is your true self? How would you define yourself if somebody would ask you who you were? Spend time creating your identity and never stop doing so.

I wish you all a great sunday,

Christine

 

3 lessons for February

 

Today, I want to share three lessons with you that I have learned in February. I don’t want to go too much into detail, I will just put my thoughts out there and maybe it will make you think a bit about yourself too.

You should wear how you feel, it’s a way to describe and express yourself. This also made me wonder a lot about myself and what kind of person I want to be.

When you start to not give a f*** and just focus on what you really want to do, life becomes so much easier.

Just give. Don’t think about what you will get back. Simply give. But don’t let others use you and your helpfulness.

By the way, I wish you all a happy women’s day! I have so many wonderful women and girls in my life who inspire and motivate me each and every day, and I am incredibly grateful for them! Show the people in your life how much you appreciate them – but not only on days like this, everytime you think about it!

Spread love, Christine